Resources -- my favorites listed by subject

BOOKS:

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find -- and keep -- love, Amir Levine MD and Rachel S. F. Heller, MA

John Bowlby's classic works which started the concept of Attachment can be found in 3 volumes:

Vol 1:  Attachment, John Bowlby, MD 

Vol 2:  Separation: Anxiety and Anger, John Bowlby, MD 

Vol 3:  Loss, John Bowlby, MD  

The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who we Are, Daniel J. Siegal  

PODCASTS:

Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love | Huberman Lab Podcast #51 

ARTICLES:

Also see my article on Attachment

BOOKS:

The Smart but Scattered Guide to Success, Ped Dawson, EdD and Richard Guare, PhD  

Synaptic Self, Joseph LeDoux  

Change Your Brain, Change your Life, Daniel G. Amen, MD  

The Brain That Changes Itself, by Normal Doidge, PhD 

The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are, Daniel J. Siegal

The Emerging Mind, co-written and edited by Karen Nesbitt Shanor  

BOOKS:

The Dance of Connection, Harriet Lerner, PhD  

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, Nedra Glover Tawwab  

ARTICLES:

Psychology Today:  10 Steps to Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them

The Gottman Institute:  The Truth about Boundaries

BOOKS:

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD  

BOOKS:

It’s Not Always Depression, Hilary Jacobs Hendel 

BOOKS:

It Didn't Start With You:  How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are And How To End The Cycle, Mark Wolynn

BOOKS:

You're Not the Problem:  The impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse -- and How to Heal, Helen Villiers, LLB, PG Cert, PG Dip, MA and Katie McKenna, BA, MIACP

Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, Wendy T. Behary, LCSW 

Help! I’m in Love with a Narcissist, Steven Carter & Julia Sokol 

Why Is It Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism,Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW

BOOKS:

What Do you Do with a Child Like This?  Inside the Lives of Troubled Children, L. Tobin 

Positive Discipline: A warm, practical, step-by-step source book for parents and teachers, Jane Nelson, EdD 

What Children Learn from Their Parent’s Marriage: It may be your Marriage, but it’s your Child’s Blueprint for Intimacy, Judith P. Siegel

How to Give your Child a Great Self Image, Dr. Debora Phillips with Fred Bernstein 

ARTICLES:

Also see my article on Emotional Needs

BOOKS:

Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find -- and keep -- love, Amir Levine MD and Rachel S. F. Heller, MA

For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn  

For Men Only, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn  

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus, John Gray, PhD  

How to be the Love You Seek:  Break Cycles, Find Peace and Heal Your Relationships, Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist 

The Couples Comfort Book: A Creative Guide for Renewing Passion, Pleasure & Commitment, Jennifer Louden  

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships, Harriet Goldhor Lerner  

For Better or For Worse:  Divorce Reconsidered, E. Mavis Hetherington and John Kelly 

BOOKS:

See my article on Toxic People for a comprehensive list of troublesome behaviors to watch out for in prospective partners.

BOOKS:

Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice, Judith Lewis Herman

Conversations with a Pedophile: In the Interests of our Children, Dr. Amy Hannel-Zbin 

The Socially Skilled Child Molester: Differentiating the Guilty from the Falsely Accused, Carla Van Dam, PhD 

Identifying Child Molesters: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse by Recognizing the Patterns of the Offenders, Carla Van Dam, PhD 

ARTICLES:

Red Flags of Child Predators an article on The Mama Bear Effect website

BOOKS:

The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der Kolk, MC  

Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice, Judith Lewis Herman

The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture, Gabor Mate, MD

It Didn't Start With You:  How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are And How To End The Cycle, Mark Wolynn

The Bears Embrace:  A Story of Survival, Patricia Van Tighem  

Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal, Belleruth Naparstek  

PODCASTS:

Erasing Fears & Traumas Based on the Modern Neuroscience of Fear | Huberman Lab Podcast #49 

Dr. Paul Conti: Therapy, Treating Trauma & Other Life Challenges | Huberman Lab Podcast #75 

VIDEOS:

Ted Talk:  John Rigg on The effect of Trauma on the Brain and How it affects Behaviors  

ARTICLES:

Also see my articles on Trauma and Toxic People