Counseling for

You may find yourself constantly worried, fearful, panicky, or not able to sleep because your mind races, always focused on the negative possibilities in life. In counseling we will work to slow down and gain control of your thoughts, better understand and manage your fears, and help you feel more confident and comfortable in the world.

Depression is pretty common, but can be quite debilitating. Regardless the cause, we can work together to help you recover your motivation and productivity, improve sleep and appetite, feel better about yourself, and most importantly, work to  find joy and meaning in your life.  

Many individuals can experience symptoms associated with painful, intense, or traumatic past experiences. Anxiety, fear, depression, loneliness, and hopelessness are a few emotions that can continue to cause problems for us after traumatic events. Once you better understand how our brains are wired, you can understand what's happening and why your brain continues to torment you with reminders. We will then work to overcome these symptoms and move through the process of healing.  For more information see Trauma.

We all develop an attachment style in childhood, and if we had parents that were unable to be loving, consistently emotionally present caregivers, be it from being mentally ill, addicted, physically absent or insecurely attached themselves. among other things, they may not have provided the environment we needed to be securely attached. Counseling is a place where these things can be examined, to learn what you missed and how to develop the skills necessary to function well in life. 

As children, we are often unaware of things in childhood that we didn't know we needed and never got, or things we got but should not have. 

Because these are needs from childhood, while we are developing, the lack of these can alter our development of self - how we see ourselves, others, and the world. It can drastically impact our ability to function as an adult, and impact our adult relationships.

Additionally, if we were raised by parents who are Toxic People, the impact on us can be devastating.

See Emotional Needs  for an extensive list of things we needed from or parents, and Attachment for more information.

Relationship are an important part of everyone's life and our attachment style predicts the joy or difficulties we derive from relationships. 

Whether you are having difficulties with a loved one, struggling with a co-worker, or can't get along with a family member, counseling can help. We can work on these issues at whatever level is necessary, whether it's just minor adjustments, learning how to manage relationships with difficult people or managing Toxic People with severe borderline or narcissistic traits. We will work  to strengthen or repair your damaged self esteem, to build or restore your ability to trust, to learn how to avoid similar relationships in the future, and protect yourself if you must maintain these relationships due to family or work obligations.